Thinking of You

You make my world
More than my worries!
May you remain
Like a moon at night
For you are a moon
A moon of my night
May our troubles
Be trembled upon
In the longingliness of your absense
I find the pleasure in the wait to be with you
My heart is with you
Our distance is not a disturbance
May you always be
The first I think of in the morning
And the last when I go to sleep

Action & Reason

It is not the act that matters, but the reason for taking the action.

DEFENCE MECHANISMS: The Musk

When we are faced with challenges, some people put up or show a normal face in public when they are burning inside. They are in pain, but do not show it in public. They are sad and crying in private, but happy and strong in public.
This helps the person to cope with the burden of being a laughing stock in public. It is not a totally bad thing.

When you are burning inside, it is ok to grieve. It is ok to feel the pain of loss, but it is not ok to be tied to the loss or to be incarpacitated by the loss.

A reed can be eaten up on the inside by a worm. It might appear strong and healthy as the worm is busy on the inside, eating it away. Then suddenly, the wind might blow, and behold, the reed might break without warning!

Unlike the reed, when we show up a strong/happy face, we should allow a process of healing to take place.

LOVE Under Duress?

What happens in the mind of a man when he approaches a woman for a sexual relationship? Does he really always "love" her? What does he really mean by love? Can a woman allow a man to take her out just because he "likes" her? Can she accept it if a man says I want you for sex? Can a man be friends with a woman without "benefits"?

These are some questions we have to answer when attempting to understand the "psychology of a man" in relation to sex relationships.

The woman, by nature want to be "liked" or "loved" by a man. This is the case even when the man does not want to like/love.

In order for him to get what he really wants, he has to think like a poet and act like he means what he says to a woman. For example, when a man comes out direct and says, "I want you tonight for sex", he is highly likely to get a negative response. But if he uses words like; "you are the moon of my night", or "the sugar in my tea", or "you are the oxygen in my lungs". The man has been turned into a liar by this unrealistic demand or expectation from the woman.

When the moon goes

For the man who truelly means it when he says that the woman is the "moon of his night", it becomes difficult to accept that "darkness" caused by the absence of the "moon".

When we fail to notice that, when the moon in January "dies", darkness will follow. Then when February comes, it will bring with it another light.

It becomes a problen when we do not accept the fact that there is "an appointed" time for anything. A time of abundance and a time of lack.

How long should the times be? How long should the time of the "moon" be? How long should the the time of the "darkness" last? When should the next "moonlight" come? How long should the next moonlight last? How soon is soon enough?

Battles for Every Generation

Every generation of people has challenges/battles to fight. It is the role of this generation to identify the challenges and face them.

Challenges of past generations may not be the same as contemporary challenges. But challenges will always be there.

We need to also be informed by our past experiences as a people. For there are lessons to be learned in order to be informed about handling the current challenges.

Silence vs Words

The language we speak in silence can have more words and meaning than the one we speak in words.
Sometimes we "speak" better in silence. There are times when words are not worth to be spoken. When words will spoil everything you will attempt to communicate. And it will be very good to not attempt to say it. Is there any moment(s) you had to go through this? What was it and how did you solve it?