A man must be a man even when faced with personal danger. Thats what all great men and women did. Standing up for what they believed in. For there will be no change until you stand up for the change you want.
This allows one to stand up even if it is only YOU who has to stand up. Even if all around you do not see the need to stand with you.
Omumbanderu Cultural activist, student of African history, pan-Africanist, teacher (of Design and Technology, and Guidance and Counseling/Life Skills. He likes writing poetry especially on relationships and Pan-Africanism.
Its so painful to discover that the person you spend your time thinking of feels like chopping your head off!
We sometimes hurt those we love by our innocents acts. So mind what you do.
What you consider to be a simple thing could lead to bigger trouble if done recklessly.
If you knew how I feel about you, you will not want to punish or harm me in any way. You will not allow anyone to try or do it either!
Omumbanderu Cultural activist, student of African history, pan-Africanist, teacher (of Design and Technology, and Guidance and Counseling/Life Skills. He likes writing poetry especially on relationships and Pan-Africanism.
Omumbanderu Cultural activist, student of African history, pan-Africanist, teacher (of Design and Technology, and Guidance and Counseling/Life Skills. He likes writing poetry especially on relationships and Pan-Africanism.
It is not the act that matters, but the reason for taking the action.
Omumbanderu Cultural activist, student of African history, pan-Africanist, teacher (of Design and Technology, and Guidance and Counseling/Life Skills. He likes writing poetry especially on relationships and Pan-Africanism.
When we are faced with challenges, some people put up or show a normal face in public when they are burning inside. They are in pain, but do not show it in public. They are sad and crying in private, but happy and strong in public.
This helps the person to cope with the burden of being a laughing stock in public. It is not a totally bad thing.
When you are burning inside, it is ok to grieve. It is ok to feel the pain of loss, but it is not ok to be tied to the loss or to be incarpacitated by the loss.
A reed can be eaten up on the inside by a worm. It might appear strong and healthy as the worm is busy on the inside, eating it away. Then suddenly, the wind might blow, and behold, the reed might break without warning!
Unlike the reed, when we show up a strong/happy face, we should allow a process of healing to take place.
Omumbanderu Cultural activist, student of African history, pan-Africanist, teacher (of Design and Technology, and Guidance and Counseling/Life Skills. He likes writing poetry especially on relationships and Pan-Africanism.
What happens in the mind of a man when he approaches a woman for a sexual relationship? Does he really always "love" her? What does he really mean by love? Can a woman allow a man to take her out just because he "likes" her? Can she accept it if a man says I want you for sex? Can a man be friends with a woman without "benefits"?
These are some questions we have to answer when attempting to understand the "psychology of a man" in relation to sex relationships.
The woman, by nature want to be "liked" or "loved" by a man. This is the case even when the man does not want to like/love.
In order for him to get what he really wants, he has to think like a poet and act like he means what he says to a woman. For example, when a man comes out direct and says, "I want you tonight for sex", he is highly likely to get a negative response. But if he uses words like; "you are the moon of my night", or "the sugar in my tea", or "you are the oxygen in my lungs". The man has been turned into a liar by this unrealistic demand or expectation from the woman.
When the moon goes
For the man who truelly means it when he says that the woman is the "moon of his night", it becomes difficult to accept that "darkness" caused by the absence of the "moon".
When we fail to notice that, when the moon in January "dies", darkness will follow. Then when February comes, it will bring with it another light.
It becomes a problen when we do not accept the fact that there is "an appointed" time for anything. A time of abundance and a time of lack.
How long should the times be? How long should the time of the "moon" be? How long should the the time of the "darkness" last? When should the next "moonlight" come? How long should the next moonlight last? How soon is soon enough?
Omumbanderu Cultural activist, student of African history, pan-Africanist, teacher (of Design and Technology, and Guidance and Counseling/Life Skills. He likes writing poetry especially on relationships and Pan-Africanism.
Every generation of people has challenges/battles to fight. It is the role of this generation to identify the challenges and face them.
Challenges of past generations may not be the same as contemporary challenges. But challenges will always be there.
We need to also be informed by our past experiences as a people. For there are lessons to be learned in order to be informed about handling the current challenges.
Omumbanderu Cultural activist, student of African history, pan-Africanist, teacher (of Design and Technology, and Guidance and Counseling/Life Skills. He likes writing poetry especially on relationships and Pan-Africanism.
